Dearly Beloved,
BE READY TO TAKE THE FIRST STEP
“If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the
two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will
not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be
established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.' If he refuses to listen
to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church,
treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector” (Matthew 18:15-17 NIV).
Jesus Christ gave a formula of reconciliation with an erring brother and, by
inference, any other person who sins against us. The first step in the formula
is that the one who is erred against should go to the erring person privately
and show him his fault. If the erring person accepts his fault, good. If he does
not, then, the second step will follow: involving a third party. The third will
happen if the second step fails. In this step, the church should be involved. If
the third step does not work out, then the last step: regarding the erring
person as an unbeliever! In a normal situation, at most, the matter should not
go beyond the second step before it is resolved. 
Nevertheless, one important aspect of the whole process is that the person that
is erred against should be the one that will initiate the whole process. There
are many reasons for this. One, the erring person may not know that he has done
something wrong. Even if he knows, he may find it difficult to initiate the
reconciling process. Two, the person that is erred against will have a grudge
against the erring person. This is a sin against God (see Leviticus 19:18).
Three, the resentment will be a hindrance to the prayers of the person that is
erred against (see Matthew 5:23, 24; 6:14, 15; Mark 11:25). Four, the person
that is erred against will not have rest of mind because of the grudge he is
having against the erring person, and this may lead to health problems.
An experience I had recently confirmed the fourth reason. An elderly man
misunderstood me and accused me of disrespecting him. I was offended with the
misunderstanding. I initially decided not to reconcile with him because he was
the one that misunderstood me. However, I developed that unrest within me. I
summoned the courage and approached the man. After initial argument, he reasoned
with me and the matter was resolved. Now, both of us do not have any grudge
against each other.
Has anyone erred against you? Though you are right, be ready to take the first
step to reconcile with the person. If he does not accept his fault, involve
somebody that you know he can listen to. Even if you take all the steps in the
formula of Jesus Christ described above, still forgive him in your heart.
Apostle Paul told the Colossians, “Bear with each other and forgive whatever
grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you”
(3:13 NIV).
In His service,
Bayo Afolaranmi (Pastor).

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I eagerly expect and hope that I will in no way be ashamed, but will

have sufficient courage so that now as always Christ will be exalted

in my body, whether by life or by death. FOR TO ME, TO LIVE IS CHRIST

AND TO DIE IS GAIN (Philippians 1:20-21, NIV).




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