Pray For Me I Am Lonely
Christians should be realistic. God is not going to bring a partner to you
from heaven. If you need a partner find him or her (Prov 18:22). The word /find/
from its Hebrew etymology entails great and serious search. How can you search
for a partner when you don't even greet people who cross your part? Each time
one of my students complains to me they are lonely because they don’t have
friends, I always ask he/she these questions: “did you greet anyone today you
did not know before”? “No” they will reply. “Have you sat for lunch with someone
you are not used to since you came to this school”? “No” they will answer? “Have
you formed a study group in school with a student from another country”? “No
mister I don’t like them” they insist. “How would you meet and find friends
then”? A smile will pop up their face like now I see, mister. The boys will ask
me “Mister or Sir is something wrong with me”. I will say no son nothing is
wrong with you. You are a find boy. Then they follow up
“why does no girl want to talk to me”? “Son how many have you spoken to? Two or
three girls do not make every girl. Son, keep talking until you find the one
that wants to talk to you. Have you heard the proverb every frog is a gazelle to
the mother. Son have you even seen a chicken that a hawk came to steal without
the hen fighting it though it is not strong? Son, someone out there will accept
you just as you are. Just keep talking. You are important that is why God made
you. Do you still think something is wrong with you”? A smile pops up his face.
Well the kids have their teachers and the adults have psychologists and prayer
houses. I am lonely. Get over the loneliness drama and make yourself friendly.
Jesus said “Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to
you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets” (Mt 7:12).
Solomon had earlier suggested this principle when he said “A man that hath
friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer
than a brother” (Prov 18:24). That is so because those with materials things are
the ones who draw “friends” naturally without searching (Prov 14:20; Prov
19:4-6).
In practical terms for those who are in the dating market, faith without works
is dead faith. If you believe God will bring you a husband then you must search
for the husband. Amongst us, would a farmer who believes God will bless his /her
fruits but does not go out to plant seeds expect to harvest? That is dead faith.
Who amongst us sees the young girl or boy in church that we like and do not
initiate a conversation with a mere greeting then expect a relationship? That is
dead faith. Time and chances depends all you say (Eccl 9:11). I know that too.
Here is God’s chance he has given you to meet the person. We are conscious man
proposes but God disposes (Prov 16:9). But what have you proposed to the Lord
for him to dispose anyway? Yet you think God will draw them to you like a magnet
and say “dear, behold Mr. /Ms Right sent by God to marry you”. Oh what an all
winter night dream. Farcically some have divorced twice and they are still
looking for Mr. Right. Don’t you think that you
are the one turning all the Mr. Right (if they existed) to Mr. Wrongs? Listen
to me; loneliness will even kill you in this mindset if you do not change. The
end result is that you will start to look for coping mechanisms like sex,
alcohol, drugs and others to tampon your loneliness.
There are times when you did not know someone, and the very first day you
meet, a relationship leading to marriage is born. That is what we call a miracle
and miracles are not everyday. God has established the normal route to
relationship from greetings to acquaintance to friendship and to marriage. If we
are waiting for marriage to just appear from the moon it would be like trying to
be a president without contesting elections. That would be burning the natural
steps of democracy. You are merely burning the natural steps of a relationship.
Therefore, all these prayers of God I am lonely, is because we have done
nothing. No one on this earth should be lonely when there are still human beings
on earth. Go out there and talk to people. Make yourself friendly and develop a
relationship. Wake up from that reverie of Mr. or Ms Right sent from heaven by
God on the internet. The Rights do not exist because you are not right.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk


"Life is like a mysterious highway. At times we bypass those who would have made
us happy on the other side of the road either because of our hyperopia or
myopia" (Hamilton Ayuk).




























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