Hmm, two years? I think it actually took longer than that for the
marriage wave to hit my last church. It's one of those things that
can happen at any time, or not at all. But once it does, the
leadership won't see it as a problem, because it was never meant to be
a singles group, and they'll just figure these are the people that God
is bringing into the group. The group will continue to attract other
married couples, and the singles (who are not pairing off) will feel
less comfortable in the group and start to leave. It's really not
something you can do anything about, unless the leaders decide
specifically that young adult singles are always the target of the
group, with the allowance of married people who wish to join.

Personally, if I were in that group and found that that was where I
was getting my best Christian fellowship and support, I'd probably
plan to stay there for as long as the group meets my needs, and then
leave when it no longer does. Yes, I'm aware that it's supposed to be
more about what I can give to the group/church than what I can get out
of it, but the way I see it, I'm more of an effective servant if my
spiritual needs are being met.

--Wayne


--- In pugetsoundchristiansingles@yahoogroups.com, "J. Cummings"
<kermit1fan@y...> wrote:
> Wayne --
> Our group has been around for two plus years, and is going strong.
Surprisingly, the group tends to be more single people than married
couples (maybe 30% marrieds), and we haven't had any "marriage waves"
as of yet... and we keep getting new singles. I think that the lack of
a "singles" label has definitely worked to our advantage....
>
> - Jill