The StepMothers's Bill of Rights

1. Our marriage is our first priority, and we will address all issues together.

2. I will be part of the decision-making process in my marriage and family at all times.

3. People outside the immediate family: including ex-wives, in-laws and adult children cannot make plans that affect my life without my consent.

4. I will not be responsible for the welfare of children for whom I can set no limits.

5. I must be consulted about which children will live with us, when they can visit and how long they will stay.

6. I will not be solely responsible for housework; chores will be distributed fairly.

7. I will be consulted regarding all family financial matters.

8. Others may not violate my private space at home, nor take or use my possessions without my permission.

9. I will never be treated as an “outsider” in my own home.

10. My husband and stepchildren must treat me with respect.