September 2009 message
The Balancing Act
Our life journey is our path to ascension, with a focus of bring the material
and spiritual worlds into balance within us and thus within the world. Part of
this journey is experiencing the lessons that we have agreed to undertake in
order to arrive at our ultimate destination, the creation of the spiritual
human. Within this paradigm we embody spirituality and have completed our
mission, releasing polarity and bringing into balance the powers of heaven and
earth. So our lifetime is truly a balancing act where we must decide, within
each moment, how we will best achieve this.
Sometimes we forget the spiritual side and we act from our humanity, expressing
our pain, outrage and frustration with the world, ourselves and other people.
Sometimes we take the opposite tactic and ignore our humanity, burying our hurt
feelings and becoming a conduit for spirit by trying to be nice and good. But
ignoring our feelings does not make them go away and we find new opportunities
to acknowledge them. Our struggle is not with being spiritual, we know how to do
that, but with being human. And this defines our struggle, which is our attempt
to find that place of equilibrium where we are at a place of neutrality, at the
zero point between love and fear. We have to choose balance or we are in its
opposite energy, revenge.
We look at revenge as the things that we do to hurt others, to return their
energy to them in the most hurtful way possible, to get back at them. Bad,
non-spiritual people do this; spiritual people do not think about revenge and
yet, we do. Because whenever we use our energy to find balance with others so
that we feel better about ourselves we are seeking revenge. And this energy is
so subtle that we do not even know we are doing it. How does this work?
When we believe someone has wronged us we have two choices, to ignore them or to
be nice to them in an attempt to get them to treat us differently. By being nice
to them we try to show them the error of their ways, that we are a nice person
and they should treat us differently. Ignoring them makes us feel better, to a
point, and allows to move on despite our feelings about the situation. Which
path is right? It depends on our objectives. By ignoring them we are also
ignoring a fundamental spiritual law, the Law of Attraction. We attracted them
and their behavior which they are mirroring back to us. Our lesson is to uncover
the energy that we hold which allows us to attract that kind of person and
By being nice to them, despite their treatment of us, we are ignoring another
universal law, the law of Vibration, which again points to the energy that we
are expressing. We cannot change that particular person's behavior by being nice
to them while they continue to be mean or indifferent to us. We are trying to
find balance with someone who is out of balance and doing it by being out of
integrity with ourselves. How long can we ignore the fact that this person makes
us feel bad and hurts us? When do we stop being nice on the outside when we are
crying and angry on the inside? This is our signal to let go of the situation
and focus on our inner upset, the hurt child on the inside who is crying out for
attention and focus on the bigger picture, this person who is hurting us is
simply mirroring our own anger back to us. We need to fix ourselves and we can't
do it by trying to fix them.
But there is another energy at work here, the energy of revenge. Because when we
focus on fixing the outside, we are ignoring our own inner imbalances. If our
inner world is out of balance, our outer world will be out of balance too. This
is how we know what is happening on the inside, by paying attention to what is
happening on the outside. We use revenge to fix the outside reality and ignore
the real truth, that it is happening on the inside. How do we get revenge? We
don't do it by being mean to them, because our objective is to get them to
recognize our goodness. So we are extra nice, thoughtful and considerate. We go
out of our way to be kind and ignore their rejection and mean-spirited comments.
Even ignoring them is an act of revenge because we are trying to use their
energy against them.
And this is a pattern for everyone who tries to manipulate the outside world to
look like what they wish their inner world does. But that can never happen
because the outside world is an illusion of their own inner reality. We always
go against Universal Law when we try to make our outer world prove to us that
what we believe on the inside is untrue. So we have to shift our thinking,
focusing on the inner world, seeing the clues and truth in the outer world as
strong messages to us to correct our thinking, to reconnect to our own power and
create balance within.
Revenge is not reserved for bad, non-spiritual people, it is the way we try to
tell ourselves that we are good, deserving of love and respect by trying to
prove to others that we deserve it instead of by looking within to discover our
inner source of powerlessness. Because the need to get revenge is fed by our own
feelings of being powerless.
Spirit tells us that we are powerful beyond measure and while we believe that in
theory, in fact our reality looks very different. The people who do not love,
respect or honor us make us feel powerless and they expose this secret to the
world, despite our best attempts to hide it. Nowhere is this more true that in
our relationships with family and our intimate partners. When we feel powerless
we choose situations that will amplify those feelings, not to prove that it is
true but to push us towards correcting our own beliefs and finding our power. We
can use those situations to find balance or to get revenge.
How do you know what energy you are expressing? Ask yourself these questions:
Is there someone in your life who is mean, disrespectful and unkind to you and
you are trying many different ways to be nice to them so they will treat you in
the way you want to be treated?
Do you find yourself saying "I wish they would treat me better" with respect to
any person or situation?
Are you in any kind of relationship with someone who makes you feel powerless?
What lengths are you willing to go to in order to get someone's love and
How much of your energy goes to being nice to people who don't seem to
appreciate it or return it to you?
When you look at where your energy is going, do you find that it is directed
towards a person or situation that you are trying to change?
If you can find areas in your life that correspond to these questions then you
are seeking revenge. How do you find balance? Look within and find where you are
hurt, angry and wanting someone to mirror love to you by proving yourself
worthy. You are already worthy of love, you are love and come from love. Love
created you and it this inner source of love will redeem you the way no material
source of love can. It is what you have inside that is powerful and when you are
able to remember to love, honor and respect yourself that your outer reality
will reflect that back to you. Find balance by being in integrity with your
inner love and you will have all the love you desire, and more.
Out of Balance, Out of Power
From our human perspective our life is a series of lessons, opportunities,
periods of joy and sorrow that we try to manage while remembering our
spirituality and trying to make everything fit so that we can be happy and
successful. But as with everything in the Universe, it is much more than that.
We are on a mission to bring a new world order, a new paradigm for humanity that
is the spiritual human and to do that we have to create balance between the
spiritual and material. This balance is actually about detachment, within which
we are at zero point on the polarity scale. We find this point of equilibrium by
choosing how we will respond to our lessons, by creating balance or seeking
When we are out of balance we are out of integrity with our internal power
source, which is our connection to Spirit. Then every situation in our life
makes us feel powerless, ineffective, we struggle and look for acknowledgement
in our outer reality. But it cannot exist there until we find our balance
within. This can become a frustrating exercise in seeking out people and
situations that will prove to us that we are right and worthy and deserving of
love and respect. And we are, but we are not going to find it until we find and
resolve our inner source of imbalance.
We are so powerful that the Universe lets us choose how we will respond to the
world, it will never tell us what to do although it will provide us with strong
hints as to the source of our healing and resolution, which is what will bring
us into balance. But instead of agreeing, we try to prove the world wrong and we
seek revenge, trying to change the outer reality instead of going within and
correcting our internal imbalance. We spend so much time proving the world wrong
instead of remembering that it is only an illusion, a mirror of our own
We are spiritual people, loving souls whose energetic vocabulary does not
include revenge because it is a "bad" thing that others do. But any time we
believe that the world is wrong, we are right and we will do anything we can to
prove that, revenge is our energy and where we focus our efforts. And we make
ourselves powerless through these actions. Instead, we can ask how we can be
detached, find that neutral power and then we will bring ourselves in balance,
so that we can powerfully create our reality in a way that allows the world to
mirror our power back to us.